Sometimes we need to fall to stand up and try to
get higher, suffer in order to learn how to love, make mistakes to be better, be
quiet to listen, go through defeats to taste the glory, have lived in our hell
to desire our paradise, confront fears to overcome them, and these all can be
resumed in self-growth and self-improvement. Whatever is the situation that brought
us to a the point where we believe everything is lost, when we feel lots of
pain, when we think that our life is not at all complete, all those moments we
must take to listen to our "inner self”, our mind, our feelings, our
body... learn to know, to love, and to respect ourselves... that´s the only way
we'll get to accept and love ourselves completely (it took me a while to get to
that point, thank you for reminding me...Charly Brown).
We came into this world alone... Yes, it is
clear that we came from our mother’s belly, and that there is a father too, as
well as a Supreme Creator who put us in this place. I mean that we are the only
ones that fully know what we feel and want in life... which is the best food
for our body, the best books or documentaries for our minds, the best
conversations that will mark our lives as well as the people we want to be a
part of it. And here is where I want to stop a bit. Many people say "you
can choose your friends but not your family", and you can actually choose
who to spend your life with. The fact that family is united by blood doesn’t
really mean that you have to like them all….You could have relatives that you
don’t even know, and some other that you don’t even want to be a part of your
life. …if they are not good for me, then why keep up with them??? I could smile
at them, but I just can’t be a hypocrite, and I don’t need to get along with
everybody, and that involves relatives (ONLY I choose how and who to live my
life with, no one else, unless I let them). So I have my parents and sister who
are my close family (and I love very much), but then it will be my beloved wife
and my son (maybe a daughter too). If one aspires to have a full and happy life
(which is very different from conformity), there is no reason to keep within
your circle, people (independent of whether they are relatives, friends, or
couples) that only brings negative energy to your life, and that are there just
to criticize you or watch you make a mistake (and say “I told you so”), and not
to support and complement your life (envy is a strong word, but is very common
between family members, bitterness and envy of success and accomplishments in
life). To me, respect has no levels, and does not change depending on the
person that you have in front... and many people confuse this with condescension
and arrogance...so ridiculous to believe that you are better than everybody
else... and if you really are more awake, then the idea is to help those who
still aren't...that’s the only way of accomplishing the evolution of the
species. Family, friends, couples... are all people in your life, and based on
that you can give them the key to enter, or you can decide to exclude them
completely... I let out all the bad... Finally I realized that it is the key to
the full and personal happiness.
When you get to feel that fullness, that calm,
that joy, then is when your vibrations change, they level up, and you get to a
different frequency... where it can be true that you can see others from above,
without the desire of ignore or look down on them (as it happens with
arrogance), but with the desire to help them, give them a hand and teach them
the way to reach the frequency in which you are now together with many others
who earlier gave a hand to you. Why be selfish and not share with the rest that
thing that causes you so much happiness? If the rest do not want to take it,
well that is another story, and perhaps their time will come later when they alone
realize it, or someone more significant in their lives show them that way, but
the idea is to share it, not to keep it secret. Tolerance and humility are
powerful tools in the process of teaching and learning. There is always someone
more advanced than you, teachers and guides, or whatever they want to call
them, which does not mean that we cannot get to that same level...At the end is
what one aspire to, whenever we take classes of anything, yoga, painting,
singing, art, sports, even at work... learn from the best to become the best or
just better, and then spread that knowledge with those who do not have the same
chance to take those classes, but that can teach us a lot about values and
simplicity.
Don't be afraid to be alone, because that time
of solitude is the way to learn about yourself, learn to love yourself,
discover thousands of things that we didn't know, change as a person... all
this can be discover by meditating. To be independent has millions of
advantages, but I would mention that in some other writing. It is very
different to be alone by choice, it is so different to be able to be alone and
be happy. When that moment arrives is when we really are prepared to help the
rest, we can find a partner that is our full complement, perfect complement…not
those mediocre ones that you would try to change, and would be always thinking
"I wish he/she was different". For those who are in a situation, in which
you constantly think about changing your partner or your friends, JUST DO IT!!!
(Can’t be any more emphatic here, nothing is stopping you but yourselves). You
can always start from scratch, that is listening to yourself and following your
instincts... you can have what you really want in your life, the idea is that
those desires are in sync with the body, mind and soul, because if they’re not,
you would just generate confusion. You project what you want for yourself, and
if there is confusion, that's what you will attract...don't complain after.
Learn how to be alone and to love yourselves. Friendship is not to be requested
or begged, and love is not to be created or sought...love does not have to be
complicated or difficult, please do not confuse it with a mediocre
relationship, in which many just stay with someone because they fear of being
alone...they don’t know what they miss. If you are able to be happy with
yourself, then each person you choose to include in your life is a plus, an add-on,
and if for some reason this person is no longer there at a certain point, your
happiness will remain with you, intact like before finding that person. Many
people are passengers in the trains of our lives, but each and every one of
them teach us something, which we often simply don’t notice. To meet someone just
for a day can change our lives completely... open your eyes and be receptive...
listen.
Namaste
