Indigos in Love

The incoming Aquarian energies sparked an evolution in all walks of life. Our ideas about love and relationships were powerfully affected. If we look back to the sixties we see emerging then the ideals of freedom and love. It was a time of sexual liberation and relationship exploration. People made all sorts of experiments: twosomes, threesomes, orgies, communes, group marriages, partner swapping, extended families, and more. we "came out of the box", and in that moment of liberation, tried everything that came to mind. The traditional values of marriage, family, and kids were not satisfactory for many. Something else was calling.

The Seventies ans Eighties saw a further evolution in the emergence of new ideals of love and spirituality. The concepts of Tantra-the combination sexuality and meditation for reaching higher states of love and spirituality-entered public consciousness.

The Aquarian energies, stimulating new activity in the heart, third eye, and crown centers, are bringing a new sense of the potentials of love. On an immediate personal level it means that deep inside you have a feeling for what is possible in a relationship.

Whether you're coming from a negative or positive, you carry an ideal that you aspire toward. This kind of relationship calls to you. It is like a beacon pulling you upward. It's a standard against which you measure what is currently happening. Though our culture has no names or labels for this type of relating, and no names do it justice, we might call this form of relating "spiritual partnership"-a relationship that is based on a meeting of spirit and consciousness.

Spiritual Partnership

When we first met what we saw in the other (authors talking about themselves) was a depth of being. There was a sense of profound recognition-a soul recognition. We both knew each other. And not only was it a sense of recognition, but a sense of connection, as if there was a fundamental linking in out beings, in our Essence.

We both were in relationships at that time, so we didn't get involved on an outer level. Our coming together as partners took us 14 years. During that time we were friends. But there was something about that friendship. Whether we were together as lovers or not didn't seem to matter. What was important was the sense of someone special and magical-someone essential-in our lives. From the very beginning we could sense each other's soul: this bright, magical, immensely conscious spiritual being that was at each other's center.

This sense of seeing the essence is of particular importance to Indigos, because you won't be starry-eyed in love. You won't just see this "perfect being" with whom you'll live happily ever after. On the contrary, you'll be very aware of each other's personality. You'll be able to see ego, patterns, fears, wounds, and the so many other unenlightened things that make us human.

A Sense of Higher Purpose

Once we got together (authors talking about themselves), we had a feeling of a higher density, as if this had been meant all along. It felt as if on some inner dimension of life we had planned this. We see this so often for Indigos: an awareness of higher forces at work that are bringing you together-and bringing you together not only for your own love and well-being, but also for a spiritual purpose that is much greater than you. Of course part of that purpose is your own growth, but it is also for something more than just the two of you, as if together you create something larger-your contribution to the evolution of the whole.

We can say in our relationship that this sense of purpose is center point. Our lives revolve around it; our work revolves around it; everything we do revolves around it. The relationship is imbued with this higher meaning. This purpose is the real reason for our being together.

In looking back we could see that it was this sense of purpose that had been missing in our previous relationships. Though these relationships were beautiful, heartful, and caring, without it there had been a subtle feeling of emptiness. It was the missing ingredient for the deep fulfillment that we longed for. 

A Spiritual Journey Together

One of the ways that Indigos in relationships walk the path together is through your high sensitivity. You can immediately feel something is not right. You may not always be sure what it is, but it's as if you can feel the emotions and the energy of the other person, and you know when something is out of balance. In an Indigo relationship you can't get away with anything; the heightened awareness of each of you notices everything.

The result is that you're constantly mirroring each other. That's not always very pleasant! In fact, it's often downright difficult. When someone points out to you that your bravado is masking fear, or that you just went into insecurity, it can hurt.

But the immense value of this is that somebody really sees you. He or she sees your personality and your soul. He or she sees your wounds, your truth, and your magic even while seeing your patterns. For the first time in your life you0re not behind a mask. There's someone really present with you-someone who meets your essence.

This dropping of masks and becoming authentic is one of the greatest blessings of the journey of a spiritual relationship. You see each other as you are. The relationship is built in authenticity. This authenticity is continually deepening. We emphasize continually because it's not like you drop the masks and become authentic. Rather, it's an ongoing process as the many layers and parts that compose us gradually unfold over time. 

 Friends on the Path

The journey of a spiritual relationship is a path; you are walking a path of inner development together. One of the fundamentals of the path is that each of us is alone. That's because it's my unfoldment-my Essence that unfolds. Bit though each of us is on our own journey, it's certainly nice to have a friend to share the journey with.

In that sense a relationship is about being friends on the path. It's wonderful to have a friend to travel with on the spiritual journey-someone to share your innermost life with, to share your aloneness with, to support you to be authentically who you are, to mirror you, and to give encouragement when needed, and who above all else loves you and wants you to be all that you can be.

That's one of the things that make Indigo relationships so special: Indigos carry an innate sense-an ideal-that each person has such immense potential, and you really want the other to reach that potential. There's a place of empowered freedom in you that wants that same empowered freedom for the other.

Central to this dream of potential is freedom. Above all else Indigos want to be free. One part of you cannot be boxed or controlled, even for love. When we talk about freedom here we're not necessarily talking about sexual freedom (thought that may be at times a part of it). We are talking about the freedom to be yourself, the freedom to have your own mind and thoughts, and the freedom to find your own way and to be the conductor of your own life.

This leads to a unique challenge in Indigo relationships: You want to be free and at the same time you want to be together. What often comes up as we start moving in freedom is old insecurities. Though we may be Indigo in our essence, we still carry many old fears, patterns, and insecurities on the level of our personality. These parts of us don't want the other to explore too much. It's threatening.

But at the same time, our Indigo nature has a different spirit. There's courage and adventurousness, even with the risk that it might take the other away from you. This is an incredible process. You're not in the typical security of a relationship and marriage that's promised in the movies. But on the other hand, in that freedom and constant self-reflection and growth, there is a deep meeting. In this environment of empowerment and honesty love grows. Out of freedom come closeness and intimacy.

Indigos Are Challenged to Overcome Fear in Their Relationships

We have learned that it's not safe to reveal certain parts of ourselves to others because we might get rejected. We use an expression-"the uglies"-to represent all the parts or ourselves that we feel are wrong, or we're ashamed about and want to hide. For most of us revealing the uglies is frightening. It takes courage to open and let somebody in. It's a risk to say things or to even let ourselves feel certain things because they are outside the bandwidth of what is considered acceptable.

It continually surprises us that, the more we reveal the uglies, the more love flows. We expect to be judged and rejected by the other and instead are met with empathy, understanding, and intimacy. It has incredible to see that, when we drop our protection, get vulnerable, let our feelings out, and be authentic, the walls come down, intimacy opens, and love flows more than ever. Our mind thinks that if we are real we'll get rejected, and if we put up a "right face" we'll be accepted. This is one of the beautiful things  about inner work in a relationship: The relationship becomes a safe place to reveal yourself. It becomes a place where someone really sees you, touches you, reflects you back to you and helps you to grow. 

A Spirituality Hot Relationship

This authenticity and revealing create what we would call a "hot" relationship. We are talking about an  intensity and dynamism between two people, of communication, observation, exploration, openness, and challenge. It's a highly dynamic and interactive process.

What's more typical in relationships is for a person to get hurt and to withdraw. You may go sulk in your room, or withdraw and become distant. Perhaps you start punishing the other, subtly or not so subtly. Often this state can go on for an extended time.

In spiritual relationships you don't let these things go for very long; things come up, and you deal with them. You don't settle for less than the best in relating. And if things are not good, you do something about it. you don't want to go to sleep and start talking the other for granted or start living in a routine. Yow want to keep growing and to keep yourselves alive. This takes awareness. You have to stay alert, because there are parts in all of us that go to sleep and become complacent.  

Truth-Based Relating

Communication in spiritual partnership is invaluable. You talk about things. You look at things together and you verbally explore together. You learn to put into words things that are not always easy to say. 

For many of us (not me at all) it's not our nature to communicate about our feelings. (Though this is true for both men and women, it's particularly true for men.) We specially don't want to talk about difficult feelings-our insecurities, fears, pain or needs. But to be able to talk about them is of incredible value. This is usually not easy, both for the person who is sitting on his or her feelings or for the partner who is trying to draw the feelings out. In that moment the partner is challenging you, starting to mirror you back to yourself, to give you feedback. the partner is telling you that you are in a pattern, a wound, a trip of some sort-just the stuff we hate to hear. One part of us may start getting defensive. Yo may even go on the attack. But then you start looking anyway, and guess what?-the partner is right.

It's of value here to understand the difference between men and women regarding this. Women can generally take more honesty than men. consequently, women are often disappointed when they try to communicate with a man and the man shuts down, denies, or gets aggressive. Women then, out of their fear of aggression, lose clarity and go into their own emotional patterns. It takes a certain maturity for a woman to hold herself in these moments. She has to remain patient as the man goes through various stages of huffing and puffing, denying, threatening, or attacking, until he finally starts looking.

 Conscious Partnership

This brings us to the crux of Indigos in love, what we would call "conscious partnership." We earlier used "spiritual partnership" to describe Indigo relationships. We can also call it "conscious partnership" because of the importance of the word conscious. Conscious means alert, aware, and observant. In conscious partnership you are alert to the many subtle nuances of what goes on between you.

In a conscious partnership you learn tools to increase consciousness and to work with the things you become aware of. On the one side you learn to handle the things of the personality such as hurt, anger, ego, power, and needs. And on the other side, you learn the art of intimacy-way to open the heart, to meet the deeper parts of the other, to enhance each other's essence, and to meet as souls.

As an Indigo you are not going to be satisfied if the relationship is flat. You are not going to be happy if the relationship is so-called normal and day to day, where things are just content and secure. Some part of you will get restless. You want intensity, depth meeting, and meaning. You don't want superficial cocktail-party talk in your relationship. You want an authentic heart and soul connection. If that's not there, you will start rocking the boat. You'll do things to get that intensity. 

Holistic Relating

Part of that "more" that we are looking for in a relationship is embodied by the word holistic. By holistic we're referring to the whole of a person: his or her spirit, body, mind, and emotions.

We are wanting full.spectrum relating. For example, on a spiritual level we may seek uplifted moments (through meditating or praying, or simply taking a walk in nature together). On a dynamic level we may want high energy, movement, and intensity. Mentally we may want a stimulating exchange of ideas that challenge and expand our minds. Our sexuality might take the form of Tantra. This practice embraces body, mind, and spirit in a most direct and powerful way, bringing a whole new form of meeting through conscious sexuality. We're wanting a relationship that covers a wide gamut of experience, where we meet and exchange on many levels.

Ultimately, the challenge for Indigos in relationship is to embody an ideal of a complete meeting-a fuller bandwidth of what is possible between two people. This is what Indigos know is possible. This is what you aspire toward.

As Indigo Adults we have to learn to trust our vision, and to hold true to what we believe is possible. Even if we don't see it in the world around us, and even if we have not lived it yet ourselves, somewhere inside there is a knowing-a possibility-that call to us.  Our challenge is to pioneer a new way if living and relating. We have the gift and opportunity to embody a new paradigm of love and intimacy.

 

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The Changing of an Age

An age begins with the birth of ideas. New ideals enter the collective consciousness, and new possibilities of living and relating begin to emerge. New social structures are seeded, to later take shape as social institutions. Discoveries in different areas-economic, scientific, or social-emerge to gradually have widespread effects.

What is born at the beginning of an age creates an evolution in civilization. In the early phases the energies are youthful. They are new and fresh-vital and alive. The ideas ad understandings are in a "pure" form. They are often idealistic-perhaps not yet realistic-but they speak of possibilities that move us.

Over times these ideas crystallize into established thought and behavioral patterns, and into social organizations and institutions. Toward the end of the age, the ideas have become fixtures of the civilization. foundational structures upon which the next age will be built. Each age makes its contribution to the evolutionary process, to be built upon by the succeeding age.

There is a metaphor in the East ...The cycle of the ages is called the Wheel of Dharma. The Wheel gets an initiating impulse that spins every 2,160 years. Gradually the Wheel runs down. Things get sluggish and stagnant, crystallized and rigid. Then the next zodiacal sign comes in at the beginning of the next age. The Wheel is again spun. There is a new impulse, bringing new ideas and life to initiate new developments in culture and civilization.

We are now in the moment when the Wheel of Dharma is getting its initiating impulse. New ideas and ideals are pouring into the human sphere from the inner planes. New capacities are emerging within the human psyche. New inventions in all walks of life are being discovered.

Thoughts and feelings, social values and mores, and institutions and organizations, have become heavy and dense. Thought the Piscean energies are withdrawing and diminishing, the crystallized forms or shells if these energies remain large and still posses great momentum. The Wheel that is being spun has to break free of the Old that holds it, as it is breaking up and cracking. Ad with all things living, though, the Old holds on to what is known and fights to keep its place. 

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What are Indigo Souls?

"...so, the Arian Age (the age that came before Pisces, approximately 2160 BC-0) was characterized by the sign Aries and the planet Mars. Aries carries the energies of assertion, initiation, expansion, will, and war. It is associated with and stimulates some of the qualities of the first or base chakra-aggression-and some of the qualities of the third or solar plexus chakra-domination, power, and conquest. (The word chakra comes from Sanskrit and is used to refer to one of the seven energy centers within the human energy system). The Arian Age was an age of empire, war, and expansion. It was dominated by Mars, the god of war, and the symbol for male virility. The development of the Roman Kingdom (753 BC) exemplifies the energies of this period.

We are most familiar with the Piscean energies of the last 2000 years, as our current civilization and psyche are still so highly influenced by them. The birth of Christianity is the "event" that ushered in the Piscean Age and has colored this past 2000 years. The symbol of the sign Pisces is the fish. The two tails of the fish were the early symbol of Christianity. And the Christ, suffering for humanity on the cross, is a powerful symbol of the Piscean themes of sacrifice, suffering, redemption and transcendence.

Pisces is a water sign. Water is the element of feelings and emotions. Pisces is connected to religion and spirituality (operating  through the seventh or crown chakra), the basic emotions connected to family and to our inner child (the second or sacral chakra), and the heart, connected with love and compassion (the fourth or heart chakra). The result of the Piscean influence has been to turn the focus of humanity toward love, spirituality, and the "other world" in an emotional and innocent, or childlike, way.

The emotional nature of Pisces has created an emotional/devotional approach to spirit. It has emphasized feeling-based communion and the attitudes of belief and faith, rather than understanding. It is a sign of service and sacrifice, and of compassion and forgiveness, keynotes of the Christian era. But Pisces is also a sign of self-denial and personal condemnation, in which suffering is seen as a way to cleanse our soul, and our personal joy in this life should be sacrificed for eternal happiness in the afterworld..."

The Energies of Aquarius

"At this moment we are in the meeting point of Pisces and Aquarius. The energies of Aquarius are starting to penetrate the Earth, though the Piscean energies are still the dominant "note". This is for two reasons; first, we still exist in the Piscean structure of civilization, which has been built over the last 2000 years, and second, the Piscean energies, though waning, are still flowing on to the Earth.

At the same time, we have a steadily increasing inflow of energies from Aquarius, bringing new paradigms, ways of thought, feelings, and behaviors. Aquarius is bringing freedom, progressiveness, individuality, intellectual understanding, and group consciousness. 

Aquarius is an air sign. Air is the element of the mind. Aquarius works primarily through the third eye (the sixth chakra) at the center of the forehead. This chakra has to do with two levels of our intelligence; the analytic mind and the intuition. 

The stimulation of the third eye and the mind creates a fundamentally different psychology in the Aquarian person, a psychology based upon an increased activity of the mind. We have a new level of intellectual activity, and one of its most potent manifestations is our desire to understand. Our minds are questing. We want to know (this completely describes me). We approach life not only with feeling but also with the mind. We don't believe because someone tell us to (also me); we want information, facts, reasons, and proof (so me). And we want the freedom to make our own decisions.

The third eye has two aspects, referred to as "petals". The lower petal holds the analytical mind, with its faculty of intelligent thought and reasoning. The upper petal holds what is commonly called the intuition. We use the word intuition in a particular way; it refers to another sense apparatus that gives us the ability to tune to a subtle world of energy, thought, and feeling.

This type of intuition it's connected to a higher mental capacity that has to do with Beingness ans the Soul. It's from here that insight comes, often as an unexpected flash of clarity or illumination, and from here that genius draws its inspiration.

Another facet of this intuitive capacity is the ability to self-reflect (I don't really get this one). It is through the upper petal of the third eye that we can examine our own thought and feelings. It's the ability to look deeper into our feelings. to sense the subtle nuances, and to understand our deeper psychological motivations. We can trace what appears to be a momentary feeling back in time to our past, to our childhood upbringing, perhaps even further. We can see how this feeling or pattern may have been passed down to us from our grandparents or our great-grandparents, or perhaps even from previous incarnations. This ability is a new type of thinking that has only recently emerged on a widespread level.

Another aspect of the upper petal is the need to find higher meaning and significance. We live for values and purpose. It is the inflowing energies of Aquarius and their stimulation of the upper petal of the third eye that is one of the primary forces creating what is commonly called the New Age movement.

The Indigo Soul Group

Each astrological age brings in not only the energies of that sign, but also brings in a specific group of souls. The Aquarian soul group first began to incarnate in the 1700s. They incarnated into a Piscean culture and civilization, carrying new ideas and energies that were very different than what was then the norm. In a sense these individuals seeded the Piscean culture with Aquarian energies. They had the toughest job of "breaking the ice" and bringing in the first of new energies. They have ushered in the Industrial Revolution, electricity, scientific thought, and the new ideals of liberty and freedom.

We exist in the cusp period between  two ages. On the one hand we have the Piscean Age, which has externalized and crystallized an entire civilization with its intuitions, religions, organizations, cultures, and ways of being. And on the other hand, we have the incoming Aquarian energies and the corresponding soul group, what we are calling Indigo, coming into incarnation in greater and greater numbers and gradually unfolding what will in time become the next culture and civilization.  

It was only recently (the past 10 years or so, this book was published 2009) that the Indigo phenomena gained public attention. It began because schools and parents were noticing a growing number of children who were "different". These kids were highly individual, rebellious, and very intelligent, and didn't fit the established school system. They had unusually fast minds that moved at a different pace than that of "normal" (in the future I'll post about "what's consider normal in today's society") kids (the attention deficit disorder syndrome). They had a different spirit, way of relating, and sense of who they were.

In our seminars (of the authors of this book) we realized that there were already a very large number of Indigo Souls in incarnation who were already adults. Most had grown up invisibly-meaning nobody had noticed they were different. Most of these adults (and most Indigo Children too) were bright, but didn't have the exceptional psychic gifts that are commonly associated with Indigos. And because they didn't stand out as exceptionally gifted individuals, they tended to go unnoticed.

Many of this adults knew they were different, but they didn't know why, what it meant, how to handle it, or what they were supposed to do with it. Many of them had suffered a great deal because of this; they felt different, separate, alone, and misunderstood. Many of them felt there was something wrong with them because they didn't fit, with the resultant feelings of inferiority, self-judgement, and so forth.

Indigo Adults have incarnated into the denser vibrations of the Piscean Age and have been breaking the ground and planting the first seeds of the Aquarian civilization. They have incarnated into an environment that does not support them and, in many ways, actively tries to shut them down. They have grown up in families and been educated by school systems that have conditioned them with the Piscean ways and not supported the Aquarian/Indigo spirit hidden within them. The result is that many of them have become-in their outer personality and ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving-primarily Piscean, with only a small level of the Indigo energies showing. Yet they carry a deeper Indigo spirit underneath.

Some of the Indigo Children today, many of whom have been born to Indigo Parents, are more integrated, being Indigo Souls with Indigo personality structures. They can express more of their Aquarian nature. And these children are still only an early step. As the outer society becomes more Aquarian it will allow more of the Indigo nature to express. We have only just begun to see the qualities of these new souls.

Some other day another extract...(I'll try to contact the authors so I don't get into trouble for using their book on my blog).  

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Definition of Indigo Souls

"A new type of person is coming into incarnation right now, almost a "next step" as humanity progresses. These people hold great hope for the future-the promise of a new humanity and civilization. They carry different energies, paradigms, and ways of thinking and feeling. These new people are called "Indigo Souls" because clairvoyants notice that the color indigo is unusually prominent in their aura. Indigo is the color of the third eye; these souls have a high degree of activity in their third eye center. During the years we have come across thousands of Indigo Souls. Most of them are already adults, but very few know they are Indigo or understand their soul nature. Many are struggling because they are different. They have a depth of feeling and thinking that differs from those around them. They have powerful internal forces of energy, intelligence, and feelings that they often don't understand, and consequently find difficult to manage. They are unusually sensitive, making them more easily disturbed by things that don't bother others. They carry aspirations and visions that make them long for something more, and be dissatisfied with the world as it is. They often feel limited and  frustrated  by what is considered the "normal world".

If this description speaks to you, then you are probably an  Indigo Soul.

Again, this is my abstract from the "Preface" of the book "Indigo Adults" by Kabir Jaffe & Ritama Davidson

ps: my comments (Rhoderick) are going to be in blue cursive...

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Una Niña Llamada Ernestina (Enriqueta Flores)

...Nunca te acuestes sin haber mirado el cielo; aunque este nublado, tú sabes que allá arriba lucen los  más bellos, las estrellas más hermosas, los astros más esplendorosos; y todo ello fue creado por Dios para tí, hace millones de millones de años, y luz de ellos te llega desde el lejano pasado por un milagro de sabiduría. Nunca te olvides de mirar la tierra cuando te levantes casa mañana, porque siempre encontrarás que Dios ha hecho crecer para tí alguna yerba buena, alguna flor...

...Actúa siempre bien, no causes daño a la naturaleza, y donde vayas, siembra alegría, armonía y bondad. si cada ser humano actuara así, este bello planeta sería el paraíso que al principio de los tiempos fue...

...Una estrella con su hermosa luz visible, es el medio más bello que podemos encontrar, para mirarnos sin vernos, para tomarnos las manos en la distancia infinita...

...Si Dios dispone que jamás nos veamos de nuevo, tengo la seguridad de que en el cielo estará nuestra estrella uniéndonos en el pensamiento, acercándonos cada noche, aunque estemos separados por océanos y continentes. Y si pasan siglos, la estrella permaneceráen lo alto...eterna , como nuestra amistad...

...Lo que guardamos en el corazón y en la mente con amor, jamás envejece, y muere con nosotros...

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The Little Prince Quotes

...You--you alone--will have the stars as no one else has them. In one of the stars I shall be living. In one of them I shall be laughing ... you, only you will have the star that can laugh! And when your sorrow is comforted you will be content that you have known me...

...If some one loves a flower, of which just one single blossom grows in all the millions and millions of stars, it is enough to make him happy just to look at the stars. He can say to himself: 'Somewhere, my flower is there...' But if the sheep eats the flower, in one moment all his stars will be darkened...And you think that is not important!...

...It is such a secret place, the land of tears...

...It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; What is essential is invisible to the eye...

...What makes the desert beautiful is that somewhere it hides a well...

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